What is it about the holidays that cause many people to feel anxious, depressed, or exhausted? I suggest writing a list of things that make you feel blessed, safe and loved- then stay home & enjoy them, because you won’t find any of the items at the mall.
If you have a family, you are blessed. Every family has a different make-up, traditions, values & beliefs. Family is being surrounded by love, without expectations. No family is perfect- the Curry & Ives paintings on Christmas cards are just that- paintings. Consider the present statistics: 46% of children under 18 years of age live in traditional homes, 73% of married couples admit they settled instead of waiting for their true love- and 17% of those people found their true love after they were married and 46% of them left their spouse to be with their true love. Family is love, and the world needs a lot more of it.
When I was a child, my blanket was my safety. I carried that blanket to every grocery store, restaurant, and family vacation. Feeling safe is the greatest foundation for mental health. A child who feels safe becomes an adult who feels worthy of attention & love. A child raised in an unsafe environment becomes the adult who constantly questions why someone would want to do something nice for them. Adulthood brings many life obstacles and hardships. The adult with a positive mental outlook views these setbacks as temporary; he/she trusts themselves and has the mindset to understand this is a temporary situation.
I love hugs! The power of touch and sharing your energy with someone else is the greatest gift you can give & receive. My childhood was blessed with a bottomless supply of hugs from family & good friends. Hugging increases oxytocin, which stimulates solidarity between strangers. Hugs also decrease levels of cortisol. I once heard human beings need 4 hugs a day for survival, 8 hugs a day for maintenance, and 12 hugs a day for growth.
Family, Safety, and Hugs. My list is complete…no credit card needed.